For years I have been struggling to “better” myself, because I kept making the same mistakes over and over again. Why do I start out highly excited, but a week or two later I even forgot where I was going. It felt like I was running in circles, to the point where I almost believed the oracle saying: “You can’t change your destiny”.
But then I read Benjamin P. Hardy ‘s article where he states that the key to your personal growth lies in your immediate environment and relying on willpower is not the best means to get where you want to be.
In How to make Quantum Leaps Personally and Professionally, he argues, I believe quite successfully, that our identities aren’t fixed and rigid, but actually quite flexible; shaped by the roles we found ourselves in. I like the fact that he shares a more “down-to-earth” definition of the “authentic self”; not some “undiscovered you”, but rather: “Your most authentic self is not who you currently are, but rather, who you desire to become.”
At the end of his article he does get a bit, like every “spiritual guru” out there, unrealistic, by saying: “There is no cap to your potential.”
Unfortunately there is. You are limited by your intelligence and with that, I mean the ability to notice, analyse, learn and adapt.
To make sure you are actually performing at your “Intelligent” best, it would be a good idea to hang out with smarter people, as you are after all the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.